Your Home As A Mirror Of Your Soul

Today's topic is really dear to my heart, I talk about that ideally our home is our sanctuary. If you listen to this the day it comes out we have Full Moon in Cancer, Cancer is THE sign that thrives on creating a sense of home and safety. so I feel I am aligned with my episode to the energy.

At this point I want to express my deep condolences to anyone whos affected by the fires in California, those that were affected by the hurricane Helene and Milton back in October and anyone out there who is without a home.

We can't even imagine having only a few minutes to leave our house, and then everything else is gone. It's so sad and truly heartbreaking.

So I invite you to join me in taking a moment to pause and reflect. Let’s hold space for those who’ve lost their homes and livelihoods in recent disasters, and let’s also be deeply grateful for the roof over our heads—cluttered or not, whether it’s our dream home or not.

Take a few moments to sit in stillness, honor those affected by loss, and appreciate the home you do have.

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Thank you for taking that moment with me - Now Let’s continue with the episode

Do you appreciate your  home?

Let's start by asking yourself, —how often do you pause to appreciate the home you have?

In our fast paced world and with the chaos and uncertainty, the insatioablie pull of mindless routines can easily take over - unless we're Intentional, mindful, and present and .... don’t let it!

Being grateful is a theme of every Full Moon and now with Full Moon in cancer.

Your home plays a significant role in cultivating your happiness, your home is a mirror of your soul - Whether you realize it or not

From the very beginning, we humans instinctively were looking for safe places to rest and protect ourselves from the elements, predators, and other dangers. In the old days that meant finding natural shelters like caves or creating temporary shelters using rocks and wood that we found laying around.

When we started to form settlements, villages and societies, we started to build more permanent structures that offered greater protection and comfort.

But what began as a basic survival need has, over time, transformed into a complex relationship with the spaces we live in and the things we own, which for many is now a source of stress and overwhelm.

It really saddens me when people share that they prefer staying out in bars or restaurants rather than going home because their living space feels overwhelming and stresses them out.

I can't imagine how difficult it must be to not have a place that feels like a calm and safe space, a sanctuary at best—especially in these uncertain times. Our lives are already so busy and stressful, and when our homes, which we need to be a place of comfort, also become a source of anxiety, it leaves us without a place to relax and rejuvenate.

As Within So Without

I myself love my home, I love being at home, and I created it this way intentionally. My philosophy has always been that I want to live where I love to live. That I want to surround myself with things that I love, so I have no need to escape my home in order to feel good.

That doesn't mean I don't love going on vacation or road trips but these trips are not an escape from a place I don't want to be. Those are venturing out into the world from my hub, my base camp so to speak, my launch pad, a place that I love and can't wait to come back to. 

On top of that, the impact of clutter on our physical and mental health has been studied extensively, but its effects on our spiritual well-being are also significant.

Everything around you is a reflection of what's happening inside you.

If your surroundings are chaotic, chances are your mental and emotional state is experiencing turmoil as well. Clutter overwhelms our senses just like multitasking overloads our brains.

For decades, I have been inspired and guided by the timeless wisdom of Hermes Trismegistos:

As above, so below,

As within, so without,

As the Universe, so the soul.

This ancient wisdom reminds us that everything is interconnected. What happens in the stars and the sky symbolically reflects what’s happening here on earth. Our external environment mirrors what’s going on inside us.

While this wisdom is thousands of years old, modern science is beginning to validate it through research on brain waves. Studies show that our outer environment indeed influences our mental state and stress levels. A calm environment soothes us, while a cluttered, chaotic one increases stress

Staggering Statistics

Joshua Becker from the famous blog Becoming Minimalist has highlighted some compelling statistics:

• The average size of an American home has nearly tripled over the past 50 years.Becoming Minimalist
• The average American household contains approximately 300,000 items.Becoming Minimalist
• 25% of people with a two-car garage can't park their cars in it because the garage is full of stuff, and only 32% can park at least one car.Garage Living
• Almost 20% of American households rent a storage unit to store things because they don't have enough space at home.Pennsylvania Association of Realtors®

Despite our homes being larger than ever, we still associate having a lot of stuff with being successful and happy. We work hard toward owning a house, a car, nice clothes, and accessories. We compare ourselves to others, assuming that their lives are richer or more rewarding, partly based on the stuff we see on display.

But all this stuff weighs heavily on us, especially the items we don't really use or need. You might not be aware of it right now—it's like the joke where one fish says to the other, "How's the water?" and the other replies, "What's water?" You're so used to feeling weighed down by your stuff that you don't know any better.

Only when you start decluttering and organizing your surroundings do you truly feel the weight lifting off your shoulders. I hear this time and again from my clients, and I'd like to share a comment I received during one of my annual Decluttering is Self-Love challenges:

Here's what Lea had to say:

I have a whole new perspective now, and my relationship with "stuff" has evolved along the way. I have removed literally two truckloads of stuff from my home so far—stuff that has been weighing me down, both mentally and emotionally. What a relief. - Lea

Her words beautifully illustrate how decluttering not only clears physical space but also lightens our mental and emotional load.

A cluttered home and environment already stress us out in the best of times, when life is going relatively well. But imagine facing trauma or grief, like the loss of a loved one, a bad accident, or a scary health diagnosis for yourself or someone close to you. In those times, you need a supportive environment more than ever.

When we're in turmoil, even the smallest things can trip us up. Little frustrations seem to snowball, and before we know it, they become big problems. In times of grief or stress, your capacity to function feels fragile, like it's hanging by a thread. When something goes wrong—when you can't find what you need or realize you're surrounded by chaos—it can be the tipping point that causes you to break down completely.

On the other hand, a supportive environment can help us get through tough times more easily. When we need all our energy just to face the day, a calm, organized space allows us to conserve mental and emotional strength.

This is one of the main reasons I help people declutter and organize: because I know from experience that we get through stressful days much better when our environment supports us. When our home feels like a hug, offering safety and comfort, it makes all the difference.

This is why it's even more devastating to know that those who lost their homes in the fire last week or during the hurricane last October are now faced with the unimaginable. They have no safe shelter to return to in the midst of their trauma. A home, which should be a place of refuge and comfort, is now something they no longer have, making an already overwhelming time even more unsettling and challenging.

If our environment is set up to support us, and our daily habits run smoothly, it's like a soft mattress that cushions the fall if we experience turmoil or trauma. The structures and habits in place can act as lifesavers, providing stability when we need it most. (I actually wrote a blog post about this already 4.5 years ago here when I went through something stressful and was in turmoil.

But also without experiencing major trauma or grief, if you're feeling a sense of stuckness, disorientation, or if you're longing for more drive, love, clarity, luck, flow, or abundance in your life—start with your home. Align your space with your dreams and desires.

What you focus on will grow. So, if you focus on positivity, beauty, and a clean, clear space, you will attract more of these into your life. It may sound simplistic, but it truly helps. I’m not saying it’s a cure-all, but it does support all the other efforts you’re making to overcome what you need to.

Take a moment to reflect during Full Moon in Cancer

Whenever the moon is in Cancer, especially during a Full Moon in Cancer, we are called to focus on our home, safety, security, and nurturing both ourselves and others. So ask yourself:

• With all the chaos in the world right now, how can you find peace in your home and within yourself?
• How do you feel when you’re at home? Do you look forward to going there, or does your heart drop when you enter?
• How do you want to feel in your home?
• What is one small thing you could do today, right now after listening to this, to make your home more of a sanctuary?

As I often say, there’s more to being organized and clutter-free—it’s about self-awareness and self-reflection. And to come back to the beginning: it’s about being grateful for what we do have

Ok, my friends, that’s all I have for you today. But remember, it’s not just about listening—it's about putting into action what I’ve talked about. A few minutes a day truly can keep the chaos away.